Are you a talker and you have a bit of trouble controlling what you say? Have you been in great conversations with a guy only to suddenly notice that he seems to have turned off and you don't know why? Have you analyzed the things you said and you think you're doing fine; they're the ones who are overly sensitive? If men are constantly turning away from a conversation with you, you have to stop blaming them and come to realize that you may be letting your mouth get you into trouble. Read the following article to see if you're guilty of toxic topics.
Talk of old boyfriends can be a good thing when you're hanging out with you girlfriends, and if you're recently out of a very bad relationship, all the angst, anger, frustration and pain you feel should be vented with them. However, when you start dating a new guy, keep the old boyfriend out of the way. Should he ask about your past relationships, mention him briefly and neutrally, (you neither want to gush that he was great and you still love him, nor do you want to say that he was a jerk and you'd like to see him dead) then move on.
If you're coming to this date with high expectations of getting a man you'll spend the rest of your life with, don't be in a rush to let him know that. Going on those first few dates and spilling out how you hope to be married within six months is going to scare the bejibbers out of him. Focus only on that one date with him. Don't think of the future and don't give any indication that you are.
Even if he should ask, be honest, but vague. Yes, one day you do hope to marry, but you're not in a rush.
And lastly, the subject of money can be a touchy one, no matter who you're talking to. You certainly never want to come straight out and ask about his salary. Not only does it send off the wrong message about your intentions (or perhaps it is the message you want to give out) but you're just plain being rude.
Most men are very eager to express their capacity to make a good salary. He'll probably hint at the car he has, the home he lives in, and may even want to impress you by taking you to exclusive and expensive restaurants. So you see, you don't even have to ask about his finances. In his own way, he'll let you know.
And if you think he can just be exaggerating his worth to impress you, know that if you come straight out and ask him, he'll do the same... just to impress you.
Don't risk turning him off. Play it safe and simply let time with him tell you where he stands.
But that's not all. There are many techniques in dating you can learn about and try to improve your love life while pursuing a career. And you'll get these and more by subscribing to my mailing list, here!
This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.
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